Writer's blog: 2012.04.05

Its an interesting thing that our friends in life are sometimes determined by a computer. If you live a 'normal life' you probably got to know your friends in school. Form classes in high school will be determined by surname. So if your name is Albert Aardvark you might never meet Zara Zebra - and perhaps Zara shares many interests.

I's a little strange, and maybe even clichéd, to say this but I think school is something you don't appreciate until its over. I miss the social aspect of seeing friends everyday. In those moments between lessons there could be fascinating conversations. You got to talk to a variery of people - people who you wouldn't invite to you Birthday but knew fairly well if only because of school.

Sometimes though school is the glue that holds a group together. As you get older you realise that you have little in common. The group of friends starts to form because of those original form classes. You make friends but you probably know people in other form classes from primary school. Those older friends have their new friends and somewhere along the line a new group forms.

I enjoy going out for a meal with friends but that is most of what we do. We have some common interests but I'm still a bit of an odd ball and what I'd like to do of an evening is quite different. I still have elements of teenage self-consciousness and would feel a little strange about inviting people over for games, either Wii or boardgames, as it just doesn't seem to be what we do. Maybe I should just try it and see what happens. Now that I write this I realise that we have sometimes met up for Balderdash which was great.

I'd like to find some satisfying way to conclude this blog but I'm coming up empty. I suppose the point is how, as an adult, do you make new friends? Its a strange thing and not immediately answerable. Conversations in work are about work and going to the pub by ones-self is, at least in my opinion, a little strange.

Slightly off topic I've recently joined a dating site. This is in the hopes that I can avoid the 'friend zone' or not being thought of 'in that way.' This subject will form the basis of my next post.